Apr 28, 2009

Veterans, trauma and steps toward healing

Years ago, a veteran told me, "I was never really prepared for the reality of war."

As a psychotherapist, I often think about his powerful observation when I work with people who have suffered various kinds of trauma. His comment continues to prove true as I hear stories from people who have been affected deeply by various kinds of trauma, whether war, abuse, crime or Sept. 11.

There are several realities to the experience of trauma, which we can describe generally as a situation that is a shock to the system of the human being. The experience calls upon all of our resources -- physical, mental and emotional -- to survive.

There are a number of online resources about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a normal response to war which affects many veterans after their service; one of the most comprehensive is The National Center for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, offering information for veterans and families as well as health care providers.

After the survival of war, the self continues to feel the reverberations of the event. These after-effects may show up in many ways:

Hypervigilance. Keeping highly watchful is an important survival skill in wartime. In ordinary life, however, this watchfulness creates huge problems; the veteran is unable to relax and perhaps may find himself or herself suspicious of others, having difficulty in crowds and certain situations, even in close relationships.

Unexpected trauma bubbles. Ordinary events, such as seeing an insect crawling up the wall or hearing helicopter noise on a sunny day, can be extremely unsettling. They stir up feelings both consciously and unconsciously that make us erupt in anger and irritability or sink into depression, which cause personal difficulty and problems in relationships with significant others, family members and friends. Although the veteran may sometimes feel "crazy," these are normal responses to the experience of trauma.

Drug and alcohol abuse and addiction. Mood-altering substances may seem to help veterans relax the super-vigilance, stop nightmares of painful image-memories, and numb emotions that may be too difficult to bear or even identify. Use of drugs and alcohol, however, can cause serious physical health problems, and contribute to further depression since alcohol actually depresses the central nervous system and other chemicals play havoc with brain chemistry generally. Addiction, too, can create even bigger problems for the veteran.

Many veterans shy away from talking about their experiences or reaching for help because they do not believe help or healing is possible. However, the good news is that healing IS possible, as we are able to understand more clearly than ever before the components of trauma and the needs for true recovery. The first step is to admit that the war experience has affected you, perhaps even in ways that you cannot name. The next step is to reach out for resources that reduce isolation, which in itself causes depression and emotional distress.

The newest scientific research is helping us understand more clearly how traumatic experiences are stored in the body and mind. Therefore, while traditional counseling is important, other means of help are equally valuable.

Experiential modes of psychotherapy -- such as EMDR, creative arts therapies and psychodrama -- are extremely helpful in accessing the parts of the brain where trauma memories reside. So are various kinds of bodywork treatments and other modalities, such as acupuncture and acupressure which can reduce stress as well as physical pain. Some veterans have found that regimens of breathing, yoga and energy work, including Reiki, are relaxing and stabilizing -- sometimes reducing physical pain or distress as well as contributing to mental calming.

Psychologist Ed Tick has documented significant healing of veterans in his book, "War and the Soul," that includes genuine connections with older veterans and others in the community, Native American ceremony and sweat lodges, storytelling and other non-medical means. Sometimes the best healer is the hope that is generated within a human being by knowing someone who has survived trauma and has found healing and peace.

Apr 23, 2009

Simple coaching tips for resumes

As most everyone knows, job hunting in these economic times is a highly competitive sport.

Just the other day, I had the opportunity to review a resume of a retired businessman who was making plans to return to work. Such reviews are often part of my coaching sessions, as I work with career changers, newly graduating seniors and people who for many reasons, inlcuding layoffs, are seeking employment. In this world of layoffs and scare news, take heart. A good resume and a good attitude can make the difference.

The best time to look for a job? When you've got one. You can take your time to write, edit and polish, as well as network, gather references and job prospects.

First, the simple stuff:

Use your spell checker. Then proofread for spelling, grammar and punctuation. Then proofread again. If you aren’t great at these tasks, get a grammar book or ask a friend who has excellent English skills to proofread for you.

You can find resume templates online to make your resume look really crisp.
My favorite choices come from Microsoft, which has a library of good-looking templates that fit a variety of needs. Click here for more info.

Then:

Use action words to note what you have DONE and how you have been valuable to each organization where you have worked. Words like “pioneered,” “introduced,” “integrated,” and the like make you a valuable employee and therefore valuable to the organization and its success. If you have saved the organization money, developed new procedures that have helped with efficiency, better service or some other advantage, be sure to mention them.

Spend some time to take inventory of your special contributions to each work setting. Don’t think you have to go on and on with lots of verbage – give the message clearly and directly. Don’t feel afraid to brag. You’ll want make yourself look very good.

If you have done volunteer work, include it on your resume. Ask the person who has been or is your volunteer “boss” to provide you with a letter of praise, a reference or both.

Don’t think you have to say everything in your resume. Remember that you will also have an accompanying cover letter, at which place you can go into detail about special skills or attributes for a specific job. Each cover letter should be crafted to address a specific job that is available.

There are a zillion books that can help you craft a really good resume. You can find them in your local book store, online or at your public library. One is The Resume Handbook: How to Write Outstanding Resumes and Cover Letters for Every Situation by Arthur D. Rosenberg.

Time to Eat Right Racine!


Make Racine more healthy!

Yes, this is a worthy goal, and has been one of my missions for some time now. And just yesterday I got a sneak peak at a wonderful new movement called Eat Right Racine that you’ll be hearing more about.

Eat Right Racine is a small group of people, including my energetic friend Heidi Fannin, a massage therapist and nutritional consultant, who are getting ready to educate people, parents, schools and community leaders. They want to see our city become healthier, happier, and more educated about the food that we eat.

I like this. Count me in, Heidi. For years, I’ve been preaching about the importance of healthy food, not only for our bodies but also for our minds and spirits. There’s mounting evidence that people who eat poorly – junk food, sugar, soda and the like – not only gain weight and develop physical health problems but also suffer mood swings, depression and anxiety. There's more. Cravings -- often caused by processed foods that contain appetite stimulants -- can cause shame and pain due to compulsive overeating and even start and exacerate addictions to alcohol and other drugs.

That’s where Eat Right Racine comes in. Its goals:


  • Improve the quality of food that is fed to the students that attend schools within the Racine Unified School District.

  • Help educate parents on nutritional issues so that they can feed their families healthy and delicious food that improves health, wellness, and self-esteem.

  • Teach the residents of Racine how to find and prepare locally grown food.

  • Encourage others to become informed about food so that they can teach these healthy habits that can change lives.

I love this and I'm going to do all I can to promote this project.

The new site Eat Right Racine includes ideas for children’s lunches, easy-to-prepare recipes for healthy meals plus interesting links about food, including Alice Waters' and Katrina Heron’s article for The New York Times on redesigning the traditional school lunch program.

Apr 14, 2009

Anxiety disorder may be linked to strep throat

Doctors and psychotherapists are now learning there are two kinds of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

The regular OCD – which is a neurobiological condition which is characterized by obsessive behaviors -- involves repetitive unwanted thoughts, ideas or images typically about harm that intrude in the mind and won't let up and compulsions-repetitive behaviors (washing hands, counting, tapping, checking) in an attempt to ward off perceived risk and harm. Unlike everyday worries, obsessions are experienced as disturbing, bizarre, senseless and counter to the child's sense of self.

Now there is also PANDAS – known as Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Strep – which is a subtype of OCD. For approximately 25 percent of children who have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, the sudden onset of the OCD is exacerbated or triggered by strep throat, in which the body's own immune cells attack a part of the brain, the basal ganglia, rather than the strep. This disorder does not occur in all children, but only those who have a genetic predisposition to OCD or tics. The difficulty in diagnosing may occur because the OCD can develop shortly after the strep infection but many times months after, and the strep infection could have been so minor that it was not treated. It is most common in children who have not yet reached puberty, though it is not limited to this age group.

The biggest difference between regular OCD and PANDAS-OCD is the sudden onset. OCD usually develops slowly over weeks, months or even years; however, PANDAS OCD seems to come out of the blue with parents saying one day their child woke up a different kid. There are also other symptoms that help differentiate the 2 types of OCD. PANDAS OCD is also characterized by:
  • Choreiform movements: involuntary or irregular writhing movements of the legs, arm or face

  • Presence of tics and/or hyperactivity

  • Irritability, temper tantrums, or mood lability

  • Nighttime difficulties

  • Severe nightmares and new bedtime rituals or fears

  • Separation anxiety

  • Age regression: going back to younger developmental stage

  • New handwriting problems, loss of math skills, sensory sensitivities
One of the most thorough books on OCD for parents is Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Tamar Chansky. If a parent is looking for a book to read to the child, try Mr. Worry: A Story About OCD by Holly Niner. For more, see Worry Wise Kids or this special link on PANDAS.